Earlier I used to think my life is fucked up, this is not right, what the fuck is this going on and other things as well. But now I keep saying to myself nothing is fucked in reality, it is just going against the construct that I had for the future self. it is more of a like feed the good wolf in life always. One can't keep crying over wasted time or past. What one has got is the present moment, present day to make changes and move the needle in the direction of the life they want to carve. If not the same old story continues for the next couple of years as well and then one reflects in the hindsight that almost all of my life was under control and could have made tons of changes if I didn't let myself become paralyzed in the cognition by all the fear mongering to my own self.
Anytime of any day can we start to make changes in our lives. It is all about stop gives ourselves lame excuses and get back on the saddle of our lives the way we want to carve the path of life and want to live it. It is aptly said- never too late to pivot, never too late to make changes. Just make micro changes first and move the needle is what I think. Sometimes we need to make immediate macro changes as well, whatever is needed-do it with urgency like our life depends on it. If not, delay goes on for years on end is what I have observed with myself and a lot of the people. Right now, make the MF changes needed.
I am right now 28 and a lot of by product of the inactions after my graduation in 2021 which is BALLB. The rage inside me is real brother and last year I also texted asking one of my close friends about suicide because I thought how to get out of this complexified thing, a year later it still persists but my relationship with it has gotten better.
All of life thrives on Extreme Ownership, Radical Honesty with their own selves. Look inwards in every situation and think how you could have done better or was there any thing that could have been done/eliminated to prevent this thing because we humans have a tendency to blame everything on the outside environment. Be it- our parents, spouse, government, system is crooked & n number of other things.But Invert/Looking Inwards is the go to thing. I myself have been like this for 28 years but unlearning every bit of this and rewiring things to make changes in life because with faulty system I can't bring changes. We as humans are layered under different kind of biases & as Seneca has said We suffer more in imagination than in reality.
In every situation we can do better than we did, I repeat almost in every situation. But the great limiter/propeller is our own cognition.
Strong Opinions Loosely Held is what I keep saying to myself. When Daniel Kahneman himself has stated- His decades of research into cognitive biases did not help him overcome them in his own life, famously noting that "knowing is not avoiding". He admitted that despite his expertise, he remained susceptible to almost all biases, specifically highlighting that his intuitive reactions—his "System 1" thinking—remained unchanged.
Who are we then? We are also deep down buried in the layers filled with biases seeing the distorted reality and not the real reality.
At present while writing this professionally I am at 0 at the age of 28.5 which eats me up alive every second of the day but i know consistent bout of actions can totally change the scenario. The rage inside me is real brother right now and my mental health has been for a toss for the last couple of years for sure.
Earlier I used to think my life is fucked up, this is not right, what the fuck is this going on and other things as well. But now I keep saying to myself nothing is fucked in reality, it is just going against the construct that I had for the future self. it is more of a like feed the good wolf in life always. One can't keep crying over wasted time or past. What one has got is the present moment, present day to make changes and move the needle in the direction of the life they want to carve. If not the same old story continues for the next couple of years as well and then one reflects in the hindsight that almost all of my life was under control and could have made tons of changes if I didn't let myself become paralyzed in the cognition by all the fear mongering to my own self.
Anytime of any day can we start to make changes in our lives. It is all about stop gives ourselves lame excuses and get back on the saddle of our lives the way we want to carve the path of life and want to live it. It is aptly said- never too late to pivot, never too late to make changes. Just make micro changes first and move the needle is what I think. Sometimes we need to make immediate macro changes as well, whatever is needed-do it with urgency like our life depends on it. If not, delay goes on for years on end is what I have observed with myself and a lot of the people. Right now, make the MF changes needed.
I am right now 28 and a lot of by product of the inactions after my graduation in 2021 which is BALLB. The rage inside me is real brother and last year I also texted asking one of my close friends about suicide because I thought how to get out of this complexified thing, a year later it still persists but my relationship with it has gotten better.
All of life thrives on Extreme Ownership, Radical Honesty with their own selves. Look inwards in every situation and think how you could have done better or was there any thing that could have been done/eliminated to prevent this thing because we humans have a tendency to blame everything on the outside environment. Be it- our parents, spouse, government, system is crooked & n number of other things.But Invert/Looking Inwards is the go to thing. I myself have been like this for 28 years but unlearning every bit of this and rewiring things to make changes in life because with faulty system I can't bring changes. We as humans are layered under different kind of biases & as Seneca has said We suffer more in imagination than in reality.
In every situation we can do better than we did, I repeat almost in every situation. But the great limiter/propeller is our own cognition.
Strong Opinions Loosely Held is what I keep saying to myself. When Daniel Kahneman himself has stated- His decades of research into cognitive biases did not help him overcome them in his own life, famously noting that "knowing is not avoiding". He admitted that despite his expertise, he remained susceptible to almost all biases, specifically highlighting that his intuitive reactions—his "System 1" thinking—remained unchanged.
Who are we then? We are also deep down buried in the layers filled with biases seeing the distorted reality and not the real reality.
At present while writing this professionally I am at 0 at the age of 28.5 which eats me up alive every second of the day but i know consistent bout of actions can totally change the scenario. The rage inside me is real brother right now and my mental health has been for a toss for the last couple of years for sure.
This is one of those pieces that make you think how incredibly lucky you are for everything that you have
Thank you for reading !
oh nirmal, thank you for sharing a piece of your heart, this was heartbreaking and lovely at the same time 💗
Thank you for reading !
At the end it left me without any words or thoughts, just a deep silence which was peaceful and daunting at the same time. Thank you for writing this!
Thanks for reading ! I'm glad this resonated
Thank you for these words. So much stirred within me as I read this.